My child support is over.
My alimony ends in two months.
My youngest daughter just won a full scholarship to college.

Can you spell FREEDOM boys and girls????

Yes, and it's spelled S-A-F-A-R-I!

Good for you Don! Big load off the old back.

So Don, do you REALLY think it's over? Those payments are just going to end up going to a booking agent somewhere, I hope it's me!!!

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Originally posted by Don_G:
My child support is over.
My alimony ends in two months.
My youngest daughter just won a full scholarship to college.

Can you spell FREEDOM boys and girls????

-Bob F.

Right on Don!

I know these last few years have felt like decades. Time to spoil yourself with some quality R&R good buddy! And maybe a few new toys for good measure.

And while your at it (looking after #1, that is), move your butt out west so we can hunt together more often!

Cheers,
Chris

Congrats - go spoil yourself!

Aw, Don. You know it never ends......really. Clothes, food, spring break, car, car repairs.
(Riiiiiing.....Riiiiiiing) "Hello, Daddy????"

Congrats!!!

I have three years to go and am counting the seconds until I am free..

Congrats Don, that's a long, grueling road to get down and quite a burden in some cases.

Have fun with the newly available dollars!

Darn Don:

Now you will have enough money to be a Republican!

Congrats. I remember the feeling of finishing the alimony. Still got the child support though.

DonG

Please enjoy yourself and dont get caught a second time if ever. You are soon to become master of your own destiny ...

Peter

I'm on the excact opposite end of the spectrum of responsibility. Just had our first baby, wife no longer working, and I just quit the corporate job security to start a new company.

Its spelt:

Z.A.M.B.E.Z.I. V.A.L.L.E.Y.

or

S.E.L.O.U.S.

or

L.I.M.P.O.P.O.

or

A.F.R.I.C.A.



Lucky boy.

For the yet-to-be-enlightened among us, how long does alimony last?

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Originally posted by Rattlesnaker:
I'm on the excact opposite end of the spectrum of responsibility. Just had our first baby, wife no longer working, and I just quit the corporate job security to start a new company.

I remember those years - it took more logistical effort to take the wife to the movies that it used to take to plan and execute a week-long hunting trip!

Cheer up, though, by the time you are too old and fat to hunt you'll almost have enough money to buy books about Safaris!

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Originally posted by Mark:
For the yet-to-be-enlightened among us, how long does alimony last?

In Ohio alimony can be anything from zero to life.

Mine was 4-1/2 years - enough time for the Ex to get a college degree or OJT if she actually *tried*.

She wanted it longer, but knew that as soon as the youngest went off to college she didn't have a chance in Hell of getting more money from me.

FLASH - I just got a letter informing me that the County will continue to take money out of my check until they are *SURE* my Ex does not want to sue me for more.

The letter goes on to inform me that this will happen even though they acknowledge that they have *mistakenly* overcharged me thousands of dollars over the years. It seems I must continue to add to the overage -- which I will probably never see again.

The Agency seems to employ only divorced women - I wonder how fair and unbiased they are?

I got divorced in Nevada and was happy with only paying 1250 a month for 2 children. Alimony can be anything if you read the below..


ALIMONY/MAINTENANCE/SPOUSAL SUPPORT: Unless there is a premarital agreement otherwise, either spouse may be awarded alimony, without regard to marital fault. The alimony may be a lump-sum or periodic payments. The award of alimony must be just and equitable and consider: (1) the respective merits of the spouses; (2) the condition in which they will be left by the divorce; (3) who acquired the property to be used for alimony; and (4) if there are burdens imposed upon the property for the benefit of any children. In addition, the court shall consider a spouse's need for alimony for the purpose of obtaining training or education relating to a job, profession, or career. Other factors which the court is to consider are: (1) whether the spouse who would pay the alimony has obtained greater job skills or education during the marriage and (2) whether the spouse who would receive alimony provided financial support while the other spouse obtained job skills or education. Alimony may be provided for a limited time period for job training, career testing, and education. [Nevada Revised Statutes; Chapter 125, Section 150].

Congratulations Don, and hang in there on the rest. I have been divorced from my first wife since my youngest daughter was 18 months old. One fifth of my wages has gone to her since, she turns 19 in about a month. I managed to get the CS sent to her account directly last year when she started college, boy did that piss off the ex , since it was her "fun" money. The child support people here in Iowa are all women too, go figure. Luckily, Iowa has no alimony, or I'm sure I would be paying that too. Child support is OK, as long as it is used as intended, but alimony is pure BS. If the ex had any brains my son and daughter's education could have been paid for long ago.

DGK

Ahhh, if you were military, you'd never have an end to "alimony." They take a portion of your retired pay forever. The only federal position where your retired pay is considered mutual property.

Don_G,
I well remember the day I wrote that 24 day prorated last check for CS.. wonderful feeling! Yes the phone still rings "Dad could you....", but that is what dad's are for I guess, I didn't mind that at all since it was directly to my kids.

The Kansas Child support Enforcement Division also seemed to be highly populated with women, but I found that when I requested to speak to case workers supervisors, the higher up the ladder I went the more the attitude changed to one of them being tired of mommies abusing the system & I did in fact receive the over payment monies back... so keep playing it straight up & don't be afraid to work the phones to higher ups.

mike

Men,remember your wedding vows?You are only
obligated Till death you do part.

Guys,

I've got about 14 more years of paying! I look forward to the day of it ending, but will continue to hunt well till that day! That alimony is pure crap. I was lucky and only had to pay a year of it. That was a painful year when it came to "hunting" funds, but living out in rural Alaska makes hunting much easier and less costly!

Don:

Congratulations! Been there , done that, although it was 25 years ago! You've already done the hard time, so just relax and take whatever the short term brings you. There's a light at the end of the tunnel and believe me when I say, "It's the best money you ever spent!" Now go do something irresponsible.

Thanks, all.

I have actually not been bitter or vindictive during these last four years, but here at the end game I find myself getting a bit worked up by the seemingly endless hassles.

I did call the supervisor today, and after some detailed questioning I found out that though I still have to keep paying the full amount during the "protest period", a simple request on my part (done) will prevent my Ex from getting any of the money they continue to take from my paycheck. I'll then get the cash in the account back in a lump.

The thousands of dollars in overages that she's already cashed - they will force her to pay back by garnishing her wages just like they've been confiscating mine.

The worm turns....

"Now do something irresponsible"

Get a Harley and a double rifle. Nothing could be more irresponsible... or fun!

borrow or rent a busty blonde to ride on that new harley or ooh & ahh over the new double!!

That's what I have always done... but then that hasn't always worked for the best either though!!

mike

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The thousands of dollars in overages that she's already cashed - they will force her to pay back by garnishing her wages just like they've been confiscating mine.

The worm turns....

hehehehehehe

That's got to be a satisfying little twist.

Cheers,
Canuck

Judge -

I already have a cheap Japanese motorcycle that runs rings around a Harley, costs about 1/3 as much and needs no maintenance other than oil changes. There is an unexpected operating cost in the "performance awards" that Ohio's Finest like to hand out!

I'll spend the money that a good double costs on a hunting trip!



Canuck, She'll probably have to pay me back $10 a month for life, but I'll cash those insignificant checks with great satisfaction!

Congratulations Don

I am stucked for life (I hope), being married also cost a lot and then you never know what amount you can expect from month to month

My friend went through a bitter divorce.His ex
wanted EVERYTHING.She even took his birddog.
Simon lived for that dog.But he NEVER BLINKED
when she wanted Molly too.He let her take Molly.

After the divorce,his ex saw him with a new pup
and a SMOKING HOT babe.His ex came up to
them and yelled how the hell could you replace
Molly.Simon said "everything is replaceable...
EVEN YOU."

Priceless kodak moment.Living well is the best
reward.

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already have a cheap Japanese motorcycle that runs rings around a Harley, costs about 1/3 as much and needs no maintenance other than oil changes. There is an unexpected operating cost in the "performance awards" that Ohio's Finest like to hand out!

Yeah, some Japanese bikes are o.k., particularly if you like to pick up waitresses at the Waffle House or 13 yr. old babes.

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Yeah, some Japanese bikes are o.k., particularly if you like to pick up waitresses at the Waffle House or 13 yr. old babes.

.............or run off and leave Harleys on your (my) VTX 1800......which doesn't even get well broken in before most Harleys are worn out.

Go ahead and wing . . . ding . . . ding . . . ding . . . ding . . . ding . . . away on your Kawasicki/Yo-mamama-ha Japanese piece of crap.

Harleys rule the planet!

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Originally posted by Don_G:

I already have a cheap Japanese motorcycle that runs rings around a Harley, costs about 1/3 as much and needs no maintenance other than oil changes.

I know a guy who bought a Honda dirt bike (4 stroke ) 17 years ago and has not changed the oil yet. The engine still has plenty of compression, although the seat and fenders are shot to hell.

Oh yeah, I forgot to mention Honda-mama-yama's.



Congrats, BTW on the cessation of your pain.

My ex-wife get's about $400 a month for the next 12 years. Kind of painful to think that every year I pay for a plainsgame hunt in Namibia without going.

She has never asked for more, and we did it all out of court, so I guess I really can't complain.

I am active duty military too and I was married to her for 5 years, so she was entitled to 5 years of my retirement. Good thing she was too young and stupid to know that then.

You guys have it backwards. My ex pays me child support. Not enough though.

D99, I could low end double rifle and pay for a 2 week Tanzania hunt for what I'm paying in child support.